The Best Piece of Advice I’ve Ever Received – And How I Rejected It

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?

Stop trying to control everything.

Today’s WordPress prompt asks, “What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?” Interestingly enough, this isn’t the first time I’ve encountered this question. I remember writing a blog post on the same prompt on September 25, 2023. Back then, my answer was simple yet profound: Be yourself. It felt like the most honest response, and it still holds a special place in my heart. But now, one year later, I’m reflecting on how advice is never one-size-fits-all.

This time, I want to offer a different perspective. Because, if I’m being completely honest, the best piece of advice I’ve ever received wasn’t something I accepted right away. In fact, I fought it. I rejected it. And only later did I come to realize just how powerful it was.

Part 1: The Moment I Rejected the Best Advice

I still remember when I was first given this piece of advice. It came from someone who knew me well—someone who could see the patterns in my behaviour that I was too close to notice. “Stop trying to control everything.” That’s what they said. At the time, I brushed it off. Control everything? Me? No way. I wasn’t a control freak; I was just organized, methodical, and maybe a little perfectionistic. Nothing wrong with that, right?

I felt defensive. I wasn’t ready to accept that I had this need for control, let alone that it was holding me back. The idea of loosening my grip on things made me uncomfortable. In my mind, if I didn’t have control, things would fall apart.

Part 2: Living in Opposition to the Advice

For a long time, I kept living in opposition to that advice. I continued to micromanage every detail of my life, planning out each day down to the last minute. It worked—sort of. I got things done, I stayed productive, but deep down, I was burning out.

At first, it felt like I was winning some invisible battle, proving that I didn’t need to change. But over time, the cracks started to show. I became stressed over the smallest disruptions, exhausted by the constant need to stay ahead of everything. I started to notice that the more I tried to control myself, the more anxious I felt.

But still, I ignored that advice. I wasn’t ready to admit that control was the issue. I told myself I was just being “responsible.”

Part 3: The Moment of Realization

The turning point came unexpectedly. It wasn’t a grand moment of clarity, but more of a slow awakening. I was sitting in a café, watching the world move around me, when it hit me: no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t control everything. Life was unpredictable, messy, and sometimes chaotic—and that was okay. It had always been okay.

It felt like a weight was lifted. I didn’t need to have a plan for every minute of my day or anticipate every challenge. In fact, by letting go of that need, I was freeing myself to experience life more fully, more openly. Suddenly, the advice I had rejected for so long made perfect sense.

Part 4: Transforming My Life

When I finally embraced the advice to stop trying to control everything, my entire outlook shifted. I began to allow more flexibility in my life, trusting that things would unfold as they should, even if they didn’t follow my plan.

This change didn’t happen overnight. It was a process of slowly letting go, one decision at a time. I found myself more open to opportunities that I might have dismissed before, simply because they didn’t fit into my original plans. I started to enjoy the spontaneity of life, appreciating its surprises and learning to adapt rather than control.

Ironically, letting go of control didn’t mean my life spiralled into chaos. Quite the opposite—it brought me more peace, more balance. I realized that control was never the solution; acceptance was.

Part 5: Advice as a Mirror, Not a Map

This whole experience taught me something deeper about advice. It’s not always meant to be a map that guides you from point A to point B. Sometimes, advice is a mirror, reflecting the parts of yourself that you’re not ready to see.

The best advice often challenges you and pushes you to confront something uncomfortable, something you may not want to admit. That’s why I resisted the advice to let go of control for so long—it showed me a side of myself I didn’t want to face.

Now, I see advice differently. It’s not just something to follow blindly, but something to reflect on. Sometimes, the advice we reject is the very advice we need the most.

Conclusion: The Best Advice I Ever Rejected

So, what’s the best piece of advice I’ve ever received? It’s this: Stop trying to control everything. And yes, it’s also the best piece of advice I ever rejected.

I didn’t understand it at first. I fought against it because it threatened my way of thinking. But eventually, it became clear that the advice wasn’t about giving up control; it was about finding peace in uncertainty and trusting life a little more.

Advice isn’t about quick fixes or easy solutions. It’s about growth, reflection, and transformation. And sometimes, the advice that feels most uncomfortable is the very thing that will set you free.

Final Call to Action

As I sit with this realization, I challenge you to think about the advice you’ve received but dismissed. Was it because it didn’t resonate, or because it held up a mirror to something within yourself that you weren’t ready to confront?

Next time someone offers you advice, don’t just ask, “Should I follow this?” Instead, ask, “What is this advice revealing about me?”

Because sometimes, the advice you reject today is the wisdom that will guide you tomorrow.

This time, as I write this post, I look back at the prompt from September 25, 2023, with new eyes. Back then, I shared that the best advice was to Be yourself, and that still holds true. But now, a year later, I’ve learned that the advice we reject might just be the most transformative of all.

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